A small counterpoint. The pain of losing someone is the cost of having someone decent and good, for the time you had with them. Some of us have never felt that because we've never had someone decent to lose (though I will be glad; feel the world a better place; when one of my parents dies, and mainly indifferent when the other goes, reflecting his apparent indifference to me. Sometimes being left alone is the better option).
To all those with normal lives, make sure you count your blessings now, now when it's too late.
Sorry for weird post, but I had to say it.
Perhaps though, people should not go through life always acutely aware of what they've got. Perhaps in some ways it's better to feel your loved ones' presence but not think about it, sort of take it for granted, feel the warmth of their presence but not think about it. I don't know. Anyway, I'm glad you had him.
BTW absolutely love the pic! I just wish I had the eyesight to see it. In fact In london, I wish I could just see the stars at all...
Saying "enjoy it while it lasts" serves no purpose other than to blunt a person's enjoyment of the the thing. They will already suffer when the the thing goes away...why remind them of their future suffering, causing double the suffering? If one person has a pleasant 15 minute call with their father as a result of reading this thread, but 30 people get depressed or anxious about not having visited their parents for too long due to the normal circumstances of life, there is a net loss.
> Saying "enjoy it while it lasts" serves no purpose other than to blunt a person's enjoyment of the the thing
Does it blunt it, or make you realise what you have while you have it, and value it the more? Or are you right and I acknowledged that possibility in my pentultimate paragraph?
I hear a lot of regrets about people no longer there, I hear very little of people saying how lucky they are with their partner/parents/others. I just don't know.
To all those with normal lives, make sure you count your blessings now, now when it's too late.
Sorry for weird post, but I had to say it.
Perhaps though, people should not go through life always acutely aware of what they've got. Perhaps in some ways it's better to feel your loved ones' presence but not think about it, sort of take it for granted, feel the warmth of their presence but not think about it. I don't know. Anyway, I'm glad you had him.
BTW absolutely love the pic! I just wish I had the eyesight to see it. In fact In london, I wish I could just see the stars at all...